Wives of Faith Linkup: Wife 2 Wife #1

Wednesday, March 20, 2013

Hello everyone! How is your Wednesday going so far? Mine has been pretty hectic with the first day of LINKS volunteering, classes starting and homework due dates luring, as well as getting ready for being back in the classroom {kindergarten this time!} tomorrow morning. I have put so much on my plate, but my faith is getting me through. I am so excited to be so busy for the spring, and am already looking forward to summer where things will simmer down a whole lot.


Anyway, more about that later. {I plan on giving you another look at my week/life sometime soon...The schedule I made the other day has changed quite a bit lately}
I decided to start another weekly linkup I found from Wives of Faith. Here is a little description of this link-up:
Wife 2 Wife is an opportunity for you as a military wife to share your heart with another military wife on issues and challenges that all of us face at one time or another in military life and get to know a LOT of other military wives. This is your chance to connect with other Wives of Faith!
Some questions will be fun, some will be serious, but EVERY week will be a GREAT WEEK!

I linked the button provided back to their website, so if you are another fellow military wife and would like to join me in following along with their questions and whatnot each week, please let me know so I can check out your post/answers!! I am really looking forward to mingling my faith with the fact that my husband is currently a Marine, and am enjoying getting settled into this crazy aspect of life. One thing that I feel is necessary while being a military spouse or in a military family is your true, inerrant faith in Jesus Christ. With God, all things are possible. Yes, even the challenges military life throws at us!

Here is this week's question:
{Note: my answer is pretty deep! Take guard!}

What’s your biggest worry right now as a military wife? How do you deal with it?
Let's be honest, there is always something to worry about, being married to a military man. Whether it's a matter of uniforms getting dry cleaned on time, unknown discrepancies in LES/pay to be figured out, coming up with dinner/meal plans for each week, if he's getting picked up for deployment or not, what his hours are going to look like so you can try to plan you day and dinner around that...The list goes on and on. Literally. Many of my little worries I better deal with by keeping myself busy: Schoolwork, reading, volunteering, working, cleaning, cooking, blogging, watching marathons of anything bookmarked on Netflix, cleaning some more...
But more specifically, what is my worry, my biggest worry, right now? Well, we have only been here in California for about a month. We are just settling in to what Marshall's life in the military will truly entail. We've each started to get into our own routines, and we're learning together what this new schedule is going to mean for our relationship. We're looking ahead and planning what we're going to be up against the closer it gets to Marshall's detach date {because Camp Pendleton is likely to be our only duty station based on his contract length}. I know it sounds crazy just moving to our first duty station and already thinking about leaving the Marine Corps.. But hey, it's going to happen, and it can't hurt to look ahead.
But my biggest worry? It has to do with the time around the end of his contract/detach date. Healthcare. Tricare. Doctors. Referrals. Appointments. My lifesaver.
It's hard when you have a congenital heart disease you are stuck with forever to be able to forgive your amazing God whom gave this to you; But He knew I could handle it. I try my best to forgive Him and be thankful that I was made a heart baby, for I know I can handle this more than others perhaps can or want to. It's a way of life --- My way of life..And I am thankful! Truly! It keeps me in check. {Read more about this at the above link!}
How does this turn into my worry? Well, I worry about my health. I worry about when surgery #5 is going to be. My last open heart surgery was when I was in 8th grade, the week before Spring Break, only 13 years young. {The first 4 were all before I was 2 years}. The say another 8-10 years then you're going to have to go in for another "tune-up". You know, another valve replacement and some fixing up here and there{yes, I have pieces of pig and metal inside of me}. Looking at the fact that I am 20, going on 21 {July24}, it's been 7, about 8 years. I was 13 that April, and the 8 year mark will be when I'm 21 during next April, 2014.
A lot is happening in 2014: plans for a family, potential surgery, student teaching & graduation. Eeeeek. I am overwhelmed just thinking about what next year has in store!
Also, four years from the commissioning will be in 2015. As I said, Camp Pendleton is likely to be our only duty station because of the time, assuming Marshall doesn't get picked up for promotion and decides to stay in.
What am I going to do about my health when he gets out? Especially with going through all the messy Tricare referrals for a specialist, scheduling al of the appointments, and getting situated into our life here in O'side, this is a serious question. Health insurance? I have only had Tricare all of my life, literally.. It's hard to even think of getting health insurance from another. But, who's going to cover my ghastly costly specialty appointments and surgeries in the coming years, once Marshall detaches from the Marine Corps?
Okay, I know this may sound dramatic to some, because there are other companies who offer health insurance and all of that. But seriously, put it in perspective. Tricare is the world's best. The best health insurance in the entire world. The best you can get anywhere, in the world! After having them for 20+ years, it's hard for me to think of or even imagine going to anyone else to help cover my medical costs/needs. Surgeries are expensive. Just one heart valve alone cost upwards of $100,000. Tricare paid it all. We didn't have to pay a penny for my surgeries {that I know of}. That puts it in perspective, right? We can't just go spend that money once every 10 years, we just don't have that kind of money lying around. Who really does? Health insurance is a must for me, and I will always need it. I know I'm stubborn and want to stay with Tricare all I can, but there will be a time when we need to find something else that works well for adults with pre-existing conditions who need to see specialists.
I don't know. But that's my all-time biggest worry. It doesn't have to do with what's going on in our life in the military right now, but with going through the referral process again and having to deal with Tricare discrepancies, it's kind of high up there on my list. I always worry about this. I don't want us having to give our life savings away to the hospitals when we're no longer associated with the military because the health coverage we chose afterward just couldn't cut it even close.
So what am I really going to do when Marshall goes back to civillian life? I am hoping that one surgery is covered in 2014 or so, a year before he gets out. I mean, I can't tell the cardiologists when to operate or when it's necessary, but the plan is to have the next surgery covered. What about after that? All the surgeries I'll need for the next 70 years of our life? Health insurance/coverage after the military is what worries me. Who is going to take care of my heart health and how are we going to manage paying for it?
Lately I've been dealing with it step by step: Not looking too far into the future, yet. I don't know that. Only God knows. He has a plan for our life, for my health, and He has it under control. I just need faith --- I have to trust in Him. I have to quit with the worrying.  I'm going to follow-up on my referral that I should be getting back this week, schedule an appointment for my cardiologist that I will thankfully be with for the next 3 years { the past year I've had 3 different cardios!} and all will be well.
So how do I deal with it? I take it step by step. I hold steadfast at my faith. It is all under control. And when the time comes, we will be ready. When we leave the military life, we will be ready. A plan will come. I just need to have faith.
Worrying never helped anyone. What we really should be doing is praying!


  1. Wow! Thanks for sharing! That is definitely something that would be on my mind! But we have an awesome God and he has already seen our futures and knows exactly what our lives will be like! Remember that he will not give us anything that we are not able to handle!!!

  2. Thanks so much for sharing.... Healthcare through the military is a real blessing. I have asthma and it was a huge financial lift when my husband and I got married. I was paying a lot of money per month for prescriptions. But no matter what happens, God will provide and will see us through his ultimate plan.

  3. I can understand why this is something you constantly have on your mind! Thank you for sharing! Joining you from Wives of Faith.

  4. Hi! I'm Janelle, and I found your blog while searching for military spouse blogs. I am marrying my Airman next year, and I'm really glad I found your blog! I can't wait to read more! Consider me your newest follower! :)

    Janelle ( http://janelle-and-dan.blogspot.com/ )

  5. Saw you on wives of faith and also see you follow SheReadsTruth! Can't wait to start following you! Glad I found this blog!


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